Common Flawed Way of 'Falling in Love':

1. Project self-constructed ideas of a person on that person
2. Exaggerate / romanticise qualities
3. Spotlight the similarities shared with said person however tiny
4. Cling firmly to the belief that all these attribute to fate / destiny / cupid's work
5. Subconsciously think differences can be worked on / changed later on


First flaw lies in seeing 'love' as a noun. As something to fall into. As something you find naturally in someone else. As something to seek for. As a goal in life. As this cliche magical state attributed to abstract predetermined life concepts.

When 'love' should be seen as a verb prior.

You are happy before you discover happiness, afraid before discovering fear. Verb prior noun. I guess what I'm saying is that don't love for the sake of having love. Love because you do.